Author: Kelsi and Caleb Fullmer
Kelsi and Caleb Fullmer have built their following on the humor of marriage and family life. Here’s their take on why laughter is one of the most important aspects of a happy marriage.
We’re the Fullmers, of @fullmhouse, and we have been making videos for over ten years! Toward the end of 2019, I knew that I wanted to share more consistently on Instagram in an effort to make people smile. From day one, our goal was to shed light on our family relationships including our marriage, with the hope of strengthening others’ relationships through laughter. Laughter is a universal language, a way we can bond with others, even strangers! In a world that often feels torn apart by differences, we try to bring people together with all the things we have in common, and laughter has a way of doing that, whether it’s a weird challenge to try with your spouse, a fun game to play as a family, or how to make a video for your spouse to make their day. The most fulfilling aspects of the community we have created through Instagram are the constant messages of encouragement and thanks we receive. It makes the long hours of editing and content creating all worth it! If the term “influencer” means we influenced someone to laugh a little more, then I am GOOD WITH THAT!
If there is one thing we’ve learned in our almost 12 years of marriage, it’s the importance of laughter. The first thing I realized about Caleb when I met him (aside from his dashing good looks) was his ability to make me laugh. There have been countless times since then when I’ve had “one of those days” and Caleb has snapped me out of it just by making me laugh. Laughter in our marriage is the magic pill (although at times I wish I had something a little stronger if you catch my drift). Everyone has their own sense of humor, and Caleb just gets mine. I’m 32 and still think toots are funny. So he generously toots a lot, just to make me laugh. Having fun with your spouse and not taking each other so seriously all of the time is crucial for so many reasons. Our kids can sense the stress that comes with financial burden, a tough day at work, or another dead battery in the van (literally happens to me once a week). It’s important to teach them how to deal with hard stuff and still be happy and have fun. I promise if you will give without expectation of receiving, serve without expectation of being served and laugh like you did as an immature freshman in college, the bond between you and your spouse will grow stronger than you ever could have imagined.
One of my favorite memories of my dad was his ability to make everyone around him laugh––especially my mom. I remember times my mom was upset for one reason or another and my dad, being the massive man that he was, would walk over, pick her up, and bear hug her until she laughed. Worked like a charm. I’ve realized people won’t always remember the things we say, but they will always remember how we made them feel. Even though I lost my dad at an early age, I was old enough to realize the importance laughter had in my parents’ relationship. I knew I wanted that in my own marriage. Humor has been one of my coping mechanisms. I’ve gotten through some really hard experiences by looking for small bits of fun and light. I think filling your home with laughter brings lasting feelings of happiness for everyone in it. Cultivating a home environment that allows our children to feel love and peace starts with the relationship between Kelsi and I. I am a homebody because I like how I feel when I am at home. My greatest desire is that my children, when they’re all grown up, want to come home and visit because they like how they feel when they are at home with us. I hope their memories are good, that the emotions of their childhood are good. I love Kelsi with all of my heart. She is everything that is good––the least I can do is help put a smile on her face every now and again.